Today I am sharing about my abuse. When I was watching those videos of Gabby Petito interact with the police I saw so much of my past self in her. The fear that I saw in her was unmistakable for those of us who are DV survivors. I wanted to share part of my story in hopes that someone might identify with what I am saying and realize that what they are experiencing is abuse.
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I wanted to share this information because I think it is really important to talk about how what abuse looks like before it is "abuse". Don't get me wrong, it's all abusive BUT in the beginning stages, it is really easy to just brush it off as something else. In addition to the things I mention here, my husband would routinely break my things (not his things), take lightbulbs out of fixtures so I would have to be in the dark, lock me out of the house & a lot of strange things that created fear & unsettling feelings. Eventually, it got to where he would punch my pillow when I was sleeping, make me do this weird pattern that I call "upstairs-downstairs" & pulling weapons on me & then not letting me leave the house AFTER telling me to leave or he would "unalive" me 😯. All in all, it was exhausting which makes it even harder to figure out what is happening for victims of DV.
"A trauma bond is a connection between an abusive person and the individual they abuse. It typically occurs when the abused person begins to develop sympathy or affection for the abuser.
This bond can develop over days, weeks, or months. Not everyone who experiences abuse develops a trauma bond.
Stockholm syndrome is a specific type of trauma bond. While this term typically refers to someone who is captive developing positive feelings for their captors, this dynamic can occur in other situations and relationships.
2018 research investigating abuse in athletics suggests that Stockholm syndrome may begin when a person experiencing abuse begins to rationalize the actions of the perpetrator."
"Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person or group makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories. People experiencing gaslighting often feel confused, anxious, and unable to trust themselves."
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